To be brave is an act more associated with wrestling a lion, fighting off an attacker or charging into war.
But I like to think of bravery in terms of stepping out of my comfort zone, pushing myself to do something that takes me a lot of courage to do.
Scared because of the consequences.
I recently shared a video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmReH3q6c4w by the brilliant Steve Harvey called Jump where he says:
“If you want to be successful, here is the thing you have to do
You have to jump.
There is no way around it. You. Have. To. Jump.
Every successful person has jumped. You’ve got to jump.
You got to take that leap of faith. You got to dash off that cliff
You got to jump out there as far as you can
A lot of times you are staying on the cliff of life and you see other people soaring by, gliding like a bird flying through the air. They are going to the south of France.
You know why?
It’s because their parachute is open
The only way to get your parachute to open is to JUMP
Now here is the problem
When you jump, I can assure you one thing.
Are you listening?
I promise you this.
Your parachute will not open right away
That’s the fear part
I promise you the parachute will not open right away
You’re going to hit the rocks, you’re going to cut yourself, your going to get wounded.
But eventually your parachute will open
And you will be soaring
BUT if you do not jump
I promise you one thing
Your parachute will never open, so you’re safe.
But you will never soar.
What Steve says is absolutely brilliant and tells you all you need to know on bravery.
He is saying, it’s easy to stay in your comfort zone in life, but it almost guarantees you will never experience the extraordinary in life.
It means you will never have to face your fears.
And this is the crux of it. Fighting your fears to live the life you truly want.
To fight your fears you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone.
So how can you do this?
- Small Steps –Identify the small things you can change now to bring positive changes in your life.
- Think back – to the last time you were brave or took a risk. How did it make you feel afterwards?
- One new thing – what’s one new thing you can do or a new place you can go this month where you haven’t been before? Do it. Go there.
- Say yes – Say yes to something you ordinarily say no too.
- Find a Mentor – to help you push your own boundaries.
- 10 years time – play the game “10 year time” and write a list of outcomes of how you want your life to be. Now write under each, the small steps you can take now to get you there and action.
- Alien environment – push yourself to go somewhere new on your own. May be somewhere you would normally avoid. Networking event anyone?
- Worst case scenario – What is the absolute worst case scenario if you jumped and things went wrong? Is it really that bad?
- What do you need to make the jump – Identify what you would need to happen to give you the strength to make the Jump? What do you need to do to get you there?
- Run at the fear – if something scares you then run at it and nothing will faze you. I personally try to adopt this method. If a fear has hold me I tackle it. Soon enough it has zero control and my god it feels good!