If you follow my blog then you will know that my fertility journey has not been an easy one.

In a nutshell, we only started trying for babies when I was 38.

I got pregnant straight away. Had a miscarriage.

We tried again, it took over a year, but I got pregnant again.

I had another miscarriage. A nasty one.

In between my two miscarriages I had a lot of tests done and it’s probably worth you reading my blog post for the details: My Miscarriage Nightmares, Rudeness and Age Discrimination. But in summary, even before key tests results were back…

I was unfortunately told that my chances of getting pregnant naturally were almost nil because of my age.

Now, I accept that trying to get pregnant late 30’s/ early 40’s is much harder than at 25.

However, before someone is sent down the expensive rabbit hole of fertility treatments, it ought to be explained that getting pregnant is a LUCK GAME. Unless your AMH is 0 (indicator on the quality and quantity of your eggs) or you have another reproductive issue, it only takes ONE GOOD EGG to be fertilised and BOOM you’ve got a successful pregnancy.

Yes, there are other factors. It’s a complicated process creating a baby, but  it does only take one good egg (for this blog posts let’s assume sperm has been checked and is not an issue).

That’s it.

Now, this was alluded to in my first fertility consultation to be fair, but as time went on my Doctor’s patience was thinning and every consultation became depressing, where he robotically re-laid the stats outlining my next to nothing chance of getting pregnant at 39 by myself.

I get it, time was pressing on and statistically he was right (although I understand the data used in fertility world is based on data taken from France between 1670 and 1830??)

BUT what should have been made also consistently very clear was that I could get pregnant naturally if I took the risk and waited.

It wasn’t.

I’m not one to be defeated and based on my test results (hormone levels and healthy tubes etc.) and lots of research, I knew my husband and I had a chance.

We did have a chance, I gave birth to my gorgeous Florence McCrae on the 14th June 2018 and I’m besotted. I had ZERO fertility treatments.

Florence

Now, before I give you my top 10 tips for getting pregnant naturally, I need to be 100% clear that there is nothing you can do to boost egg reserves and quality. Don’t believe people who tell you they can. Your egg reserves are finite and your egg quality (I don’t believe) can be increased by anything you can do.

However, there are things you can do to improve your overall health and chances of getting pregnant and this is what I did using the 10 tips below. By the way I also threw in a few herbal remedies into the 10 tips that are “supposed” to improve egg quality and reproductive health. My view was, what is the harm in doing them anyway?

But ultimately I believe above everything else that you can do and my 10 tips aside, there are two key things that you absolutely should do BUT you will need to scroll to the bottom to get these!

So, if you’re ready, let me take you through the Top 10 Things I did to get Pregnant Naturally:

1.Vitamin D

Vitamin D

I’m low in Vitamin D because I’m not a massive fan of the sun.

BUT I realised whenever I’ve got pregnant, it’s always been just after summer. So, I did some research on sunlight and the effect on fertility and there have been studies that linked the two.

Please read this article in the Independent for more information.

Last summer before I got successfully pregnant, I purposely spent A LOT more time out in the garden sunbathing. Plus I made sure my face had 30 minutes of sun exposure per day without sunblock and I also started taking a good quality Vitamin D supplement (I use Liquid Vitamin D3 Drops by natures answer.

I should mention, I’m not an affiliate for any products I’m recommending in the blog and not financially rewarded – I am recommending them because I personally have seen their worth.

So, get out into the sun more, leave your face or arms exposed for about 30 minutes per day without sunblock and get Vitamin D levels tested. Take a good quality supplement if your low on Vitamin D.

2. Acupuncture

Acupuncture

Have regular acupuncture.

Good for general health anyway, but in particular for fertility by:

  • Regulating fertility hormones
  • Increasing blood flow to reproductive organs
  • Counteracting the effects of polycystic ovaries syndrome.

Read this article by British Acupuncture Council for more details.

I used to go weekly, but you don’t need to do that. You can go once a month (I think the best time is pre-ovulation) but check with your acupuncture practitioner.

Most acupuncture clinics will also hold what’s called a Multi Bed Clinic, whereby you pay what you can afford (normally a minimum of £20) for a shorter, but just as effective treatment.

My acupuncturist is the amazing Kim Childs and I can also recommend Total Health West Berks Clinic in Newbury for Acupuncture.

3. Cordyceps

The Top 10 Things I Did To Get Pregnant Naturally At 41

Cordy what?

Yup, CORDYCEPS.

Basically, a mushroom powder, which has been widely used in Chinese herbal medicine for centuries. I was advised to take them by my acupuncturist, who had consulted an herbal medicine practitioner on my behalf.

Cordyceps have been used to:

  • Protect the liver
  • Improve kidney function
  • Alleviate respiratory illness
  • Enhance libido
  • General tonic to help improve stamina, energy endurance, stamina and disrupted sleep patterns.

In terms of fertility benefits, various studies published in medical journals have shown that cordyceps have supported a variety of fertility issues. Including, poor egg health and sperm health associated with declining age, immune related recurrent miscarriage, antisperm antibodies and PCOS.

I started off with the powder but couldn’t stand the smell! So, I ended up taking 2 x 500 mg tablets 3 x daily. I took the good quality supplement shown in the piccy above.

4. Haramaki

Haramaki

Again, I was recommended by my acupuncturist to wear a Japanese garment called a Haramaki because she diagnosed that I had a cold uterus.

The obvious implications of a cold uterus being that it’s not a hospitable environment to conceive and grow baby. She recommended that I wear a Haramaki which is effectively like a boob tube you wear around your tummy and abdomen to keep that area warm.

I wore one most days and still do whilst I’m pregnant.

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5. Castor Oil Pack

The Top 10 Things I Did To Get Pregnant Naturally At 41

It’s a remedy that’s been around for years and all you need is:

  • Organic castor oil (I used Pukka)
  • Flannel
  • Hot water bottle
  • And a towel

In summary, place the flannel (which has one to two capfuls of castor oil poured onto it) onto your abdomen and place a hot water bottle over the top and lie there for 30 to 45 minutes.

The action of the heat and the castor oil seeping into your abdomen are supposed to detoxify internal organs, stimulate blood circulation and help to heal tissues/organs. It also adds heat to your reproductive area.

You can only apply the pack in the window of time between your period and pre-ovulation.

It’s recommended that you do it every day for four consecutive days after period and pre-ovulation, for a maximum of 30 to 45 minutes.

Research it yourself and decide which frequency suits you.

Aside from reproductive benefits, it’s an excellent way to relax. I used to lie and listen to a fertility meditation whilst doing it. I would normally do it every other night after my period until estimated ovulation.

6. V Steam

V Steam

If you refer to my blog post on V Steam – Vagina Steaming,  I give you the full details on what vagina steaming is and how to do it.

But in essence, the clue is in the title, I steamed my vagina!

The medical profession warns against doing this, particularly if you suffer from certain gynaecological issues. However, when I investigated, the principles behind V Steaming seemed logical, so I thought why not?

I purchased my herbs from Neils Yard and proceeded to steam and it DEFINITELY had an effect on me, not least it was really relaxing.

Read my blog for the full details, but suffice to say if you’re on a fertility journey I would recommend it. I used to do it once or twice a month.

7. Auto Immune Diet & Exercise

Auto Immune

Clean up your diet and get active. It’s as simple as that.

We know the importance of diet to our overall health, but I wanted to take it one step further.

So, under the guidance of Nutritional Scientist Mark Bennett, last summer I embarked on a fairly hard-core auto immune diet and supplementation program for a month. I’m not qualified to talk about the details of the diet (which was also specific to me), but what I can tell you is that the diet loosely followed that of an auto immune diet.

I recommend you do the same for a month and then generally eat healthy, consuming those foods that we know are good for fertility:

  • Spinach
  • Honey
  • Bee pollen
  • Lean red meat
  • Garlic

To name just a few.

The book that I can recommend for autoimmune recipes is called: The Auto Immune Paleo Cookbook by Mickey Trescott.

Exercise 5 to 6 days a week. Get out into the fresh air regularly, take long walks, get to the gym, do some yoga, whatever takes your fancy, but it’s imperative to move your body!

8. Ovulation Ovulation Ovulation

The Top 10 Things I Did To Get Pregnant Naturally At 41

Did you know that there are only about 5 days per month when you actually can get pregnant?

Obviously to get pregnant the sperm has to fertilise an egg, but it’s all about timing.

Once an egg has been released (ovulation) it can only survive for 12 to 24 hours, therefore it’s vital it’s fertilised by the sperm within that time. As I said above, sperm can survive for up to 5 days in a women’s body (some say 7 days), so sex needs to coincide with these timings, 5 days before ovulation up to 12 hours(ish) afterwards.

The key to this of course is to understand exactly when you are ovulating.

Every fertility doctor I’ve spoken with, doesn’t think the ovulation sticks work (can’t remember why) and recommends having sex every other day after the last day of your period (all fine assuming you don’t get urine infections. I did). Theory being, although generally ovulation occurs on day 14 for the average women, some people ovulation a lot earlier and some a lot later.

Some therapists recommend you monitor your BBT temperature (a persons temperature at rest, normally between 36 degrees to 36.5 degrees), others tell you to monitor the discharge in your knickers etc. I tried it all: ovulation sticks, taking my BBT, sex every other day, monitoring ovulation pain, and monitoring my discharge. I found it ALL exhausting.

I think the only scientific test you can do, is to try and get a scan near to supposed ovulation as possible to be sure of ovulation date. OR in the absence of this, try a month of using ovulation sticks, monitoring temperature and discharge etc. to establish if you can roughly work it out.

But don’t persist in the ovulation mania, it will drive you mad.

In the end, I guestimated my ovulation date based on all of the above and made sure I had sex for every other day for the week proceeding and the approximate date of ovulation. I also monitored when I wanted to have sex because this is obviously a key indicator!

Incidentally, if your prone to urine infections, baby making is a nightmare. So, can I recommend a super effective herbal remedy called D-Mannose. It’s amazing.

9. Fertility Conception Supplement

The Top 10 Things I Did To Get Pregnant Naturally At 41

Short and sweet advice for this, but as soon as you make the decision to start trying for a baby, take a good quality fertility conception supplement.

A study by Warwick University confirmed women on fertility conception supplements are more likely to conceive and 60% were more likely to remain pregnant than those women who just take folic acid.

I took Pro Conception Fertility for Women by Viridian before I got successfully pregnant with the baby I’m now carrying, previously I took another mainstream brand.

See Viridian website.

10. Get Tested

If you’re having problems after a year of trying, then my advice is to get properly tested. Be prepared for the results BUT remember what I said at the beginning.

The fact is, the more you know about the state of your fertility the better. Because if you’re told your AMH is 0.01 then my advice would be different to say someone with an AMH of 7.

Also, get your reproductive system scanned to check for blockages and general health. This will involve having your tubes flushed out which I was told by the doctor is an excellent way to help get pregnant anyway.

Plus get tested for STDS, chlamydia being the main culprit.

There are probably other tests that I’ve forgotten but your doctor will guide you.

The Top 10 Things I Did To Get Pregnant Naturally At 41

It’s worth pointing out how hard it is to get pregnant, even the most fertile couples only have a 25% chance of getting successfully pregnant every month.

So, my advice is to expect it to take at least a year (totally normal), but know that it takes some people two to three years to conceive naturally. Again, I think this is a normal (ish) timescale for someone who is older certainly.

Looking back, I’m really proud of my attitude throughout the entire process, yes there were wobbly days, particularly after my second miscarriage. But overall, I kept the faith (see Ultimate Two Key Things). I trusted that the right thing would happen to me and it did. It’s easier said than done when you’re going through the process, I know, but I think that I am allowed to say keep calm and dare I say it, relax.

I often wanted to scream when someone told me to relax, it’s annoying. However, there is an element of truth in what people say. I found out I was pregnant after working on myself (see Ultimate Two Key Things) and letting go of the outcome.

The Ultimate Two Key Things?

  1. Working on my Inner Happiness
  2. Meditation

Inner Happiness

In terms of working on my inner happiness, in effect I coached myself (you may not know if you’ve just stumbled on this blog that I’m a Life Coach and Small Business Coach). I took myself through a coaching program I would give to a client and VOILA! I FELT SO MUCH BETTER ABOUT EVERYTHING!

Literally about everything.

I swear following on from coaching myself that my whole outlooked changed and from there the magic happened.

The coaching not only helped divert my attention; but it help me to become a better version of myself. After I finished coaching myself I was the happiest I had ever been until that point and that was in the midst of miscarriages and not getting pregnant!

If you want to know what I did, I’ve got an online coaching course: 5 Days To A Better You that takes you through exactly the same coaching program I did.  I’m not one for pushing my products by the way, I’m honestly really not. Firstly I don’t need too, BUT I really feel you will benefit from the results. The course may seem pricey, but trust me you’re getting the equivalent of over 6 hours of coaching from me (I charge £125 per hour) and soooooo much more, so it’s well worth the price! I believe it can change your life. But if not my course, then go and consult a Life Coach, it will be worth it I promise! Ask them to help you work on your inner happiness.

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Meditation 

Meditation

Trust me when I say, I probably had the busiest mind of anyone I knew. Honestly, truly, honestly. What made things worse on my fertility journey was the constant overthinking, over analysing and the constant quest to find the magical answer that was going to result in me getting pregnant (I was thinking about going to Thailand and drinking the water from a fertility lake I’d heard of for gods sake)……

In the end and through coaching myself I realised I had to calm my mind otherwise I was going to go crazy.

That’s when I started to properly meditate.

Well I tried to meditate and basically found it impossible my mind was too busy!!

So to cut a very long story short, I went on a mission to find a meditation practise that worked for even my busy mind and I found it. In fact I found 8 different methods and trust me, if they work for me, then they will work for you!

Why meditate? What’s the point? Well to get straight to the point, as well as numerous health benefits, meditation MAKES YOU HAPPY……

It’s probably one of the THE main ways to make you happy.

I found this out on my meditation research journey, a fact, up until then which had totally alluded me.

Meditation aside from being the key to being calm etc is one of the ultimate ways to find true happiness.

So my point is this, if your on a fertility journey, try meditation. I’ve got a book which outlines the 8 meditation methods that worked for me and you can access the book by clicking here OR go onto YouTube or get a meditation teacher, but please please please do it, it really helps!

Meditate for Beginners

Parting Advice

Look over my 10 tips and try the ones that resonate with you; some may resonate more than others and that’s fine. But my tips come from lots of research and I truly advocate every one of them, so study them carefully.

Plus, I strongly recommend (as in DO THEM) you find your inner happiness and you meditate; I provided you with two resources that are available in my shop to help with both, but if you can’t afford them or they don’t resonate with you then please look elsewhere BUT DO THEM!! YouTube is always a fab place to look for free stuff or listen to my podcast: The Prosperity Kitchen Podcast the perfect FREE resource.

And my final final final parting piece of advice is actually, be realistic about how long it’s going to take you to get pregnant and make sure you get really fit and healthy before. My opinion is: it can take one to three years to get successfully pregnant naturally. I also recommend you have a conversation with your partner as soon as you can about your expectations re timings and agree a sensible date as to when you will proceed in an assisted fertility route and then try to let the outcome of getting pregnant go.

I hope this helped you.

Gemma

x

Helpful footnotes:

Click here to listen to the podcast I did with my acupuncturist Kim Childs on how acupuncture can help with fertility

Step this way to listen into the podcast I did with Top UK Fertility Expert Dr Gillian Lockwood

Click here to tune in to the podcast I did with my old school friend Michelle Dickson on how she spent ££££ on IVF and then conceived naturally.


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